トリーバーチ The seven ways to get more from your life

The seven ways for you to get
more from your life
"Your only limits are those that you have placed, make your life better change your perspective" -
Audie Waterman - hxxp: www. audiewaterman. com
This article is intended to help you to understand where you are and to take distinct steps to make
your life better for you. It is my vision as a coach that I will help as many people in helping to
make them happy as possible. By writing this article I hope to achieve this aim by providing you
the reader with this opportunity. So firstly thank you for taking your valuable time to read this
article and I hope that you learn some more details about yourself and arm yourself with some more
tools to create your juice for life, perhaps find the thing or things that make you go to bed late and
to wake up early in the morning, like I have.
Seven steps to your preparation
To prepare yourself for the amazing juice that you can take from life I would like to ask you to take
a little more time out for you and look at the following seven steps to allow you to better understand
you and where you are now. Answer each question with an open and honest response and allow
yourself to absorb the truthfulness of the answer so that you can better understand where you are
now and to better understand how it is that you operate so that you can more easily find the way to a
better life. Make sure that you are sitting comfortably and try to find a place where you won't be
interrupted for a little while, finally these answers are important to you and you should know that
you will not need to share them with anyone else (unless of course you want to).
So when you are ready take some paper and a pen and start writing, remember to have fun, and
smile.
If you get stuck at any point ask yourself, what would I ask a friend, how could I find this
information out? What would a friend say about me? Or anything else like that that may work for
you.
1) Dreams - what have you dreamed of doing? What would be the ideal thing in life for you to
do if you had no constraints, nothing holding you back or no one to explain why to? Let
your imagination run wild the answer to this question should not be constrained by whether
or not you think you can or cannot at this stage, how could you be even more amazing?
2) Where are you now? - Today when you look around at what you have work towards for your
goal what do you hear? what do you feel? What have you done so far?
3) Risk and Reward - If you took action today towards achieving your goal what would be
your answers to the following
a) What would you lose by not taking action
b) What would you lose by taking action
c) What would you gain by not taking action
d) What would gain by taking action
4) Failure - When you hear that word what does it mean to you? Explain failure in your own
words, bullet points, perhaps a mind map, a picture or even a paragraph of writing. Use
whatever comes more naturally to you.
5) When did you last take some time out for you?
6) Love - How much do you really appreciate you?
a) Do you love the way you look?
b) Your energy levels?
7) If your best friend was not doing the best that you thought they could in life what words
would you use to encourage them? What else would you do?
Thank you again for taking the time to answer these question fully and honestly and please
remember to do them again and again as you progress through life as I know you will, also as you
do this know which questions spark more interest in you and perhaps look more to those types of
questions as they will move you towards your pleasure and that final goal or perhaps for you it is
away from that pain and closer to your final goal?
The answers to these questions will now allow you to look at yourself with greater clarity and will
allow you to see how you work a little more easily and armed with this information you will get to
know yourself a little better then you did before and be able to create a better life just by being more
aware of how you work.
The answer to question 1) has provided you with where you want to go and 2) has provided you
with and idea of where you currently are. Now you can start to plot your course, think of it like a
road map you cannot get somewhere unless you know where you are and where it is you want to
go.
The answer you provided to 3) was for you to test a couple of things, firstly that you stand to benefit
more by achieving your goal, this will allow you to build your "WHY" a goal without a reason why
has little motivation behind it. If you have more things that you hold dear to you that you will lose
then you will gain then this may not be the goal for you and you may want to re-assess why you
think this goal could work for you? It may be that you just need to just look again at the possible
benefits that you could get from the goal. Also are the things that you are losing a positive impact
in your life? If they are not then perhaps these are good things for you to lose? As you will be
replacing them with the positives on your list.
The answer to 4) will give you an insight into you attitude to failure. In today's world with the
education, media parents etc. failure seems to be a word that is used so often as a bad thing. At
school if you fail you are punished with bad grades. Your parents could be cross with you because
of this? At work if you get things wrong most employers will give you warnings and tell you that
they are unhappy. As a result of our conditioning when we fail we feel bad or are made to feel bad
through peer pressure and society. How did you view failure? How is failure defined in the
dictionary?
fail路ure / 'faly?r/ 鈥?n. 1. lack of success: an economic policy that is doomed to failure. ? an
unsuccessful person,トリーバーチ, enterprise,トリーバーチ, or thing: crop failures. ? lack of success in passing an examination
or test. 2. the omission of expected or required action: their failure to comply with the basic rules. ?
a lack or deficiency of a desirable quality: a failure of imagination. 3. the action or state of not
functioning: symptoms of heart failure. ? the collapse of a business.
hxxp: www. encyclopedia. com/doc/1O999-failure. html
With failure defined in such a way it is no wonder that our life is full of stress and that we have a
fear of this.
I like my definition a little better and hope that it inspires you to either take this on board or to come
up with your own empowering definition also.
"Failure can only happen when we fail to learn from any mistakes that we make" - Audie Waterman
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To help you to make your own or to allow you to use some others this is how some great and
successful people also explain what failure means to them.
"I didn't fail the test, I just found 100 ways to do it wrong" - Benjamin Franklin
"Each failure is a stepping stone to Success, which in turn
will become a very long and lovely stone walkway into the
castle of your DREAMS!" - John Di Lemme
"Failure defeats losers, failure inspires winners. " -- Robert Kiyosaki, Entrepreneur and Author
"Entrepreneurs average 3. 8 failures before final success. What sets the successful ones apart is their
amazing persistence. " -- Lisa M. Amos, Entrepreneur
"It doesn't matter how many times you fail. It doesn't matter how many times you almost get it
right. No one is going to know or care about your failures, and neither should you. All you have to
do is learn from them and those around you because all that matters in business is that you get it
right once. Then everyone can tell you how lucky you are. " -- Mark Cuban, Owner of the Dallas
Mavericks
"Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently. " - Henry Ford
"Whether you think that you can, or that you can't, you are usually right" - Henry Ford
I hope that some of these inspired you to look at failure as a tool to improve your life, as an
indication that you are almost there and that you are just exploring all of the avenues to become an
expert in your field. I hope that now you will see that failure is a friend and learn to love it for the
rich lessons that it presents to you allowing you to grow more and gain even more experience.
The answer you gave to 5) and 6) allows you to see when you last helped yourself and how much
you love yourself. This is an important step as you can only expect the love and help of others
when you can confidently possess the love and help of yourself from within, this step is often the
one that is most uncomfortable for us as we have been taught throughout life (in the UK at least)
that we would be egotistical, or big headed to do so. This is wrong why would you deny yourself
the same love and support that you would give to your best friend? Which leads us quite nicely into
the final answer you gave of how you would support your best friend. How does this differ to the
support you give to yourself? If you have found that you are being any harder on yourself then why
not become your own best friend? Support yourself as your would them.
Well now you know a little more about yourself and you should now know:
路 Where you are currently
路 Where you want to go
路 The reason to get to where you want to get
路 You should have an empowering insight into failure now
路 You should now be looking to be a better friend to yourself and have greater self
appreciation.
. . . So to conclude this session with this new insight what can you do with it? How can you use it to
benefit you and move towards your goals?
7 daily exercises
The following are exercises to perform over the next seven days, pick one or as many as you are
comfortable with at a time, though one is recommended. Then perform the exercise noting the
differences you see over the next seven days. Then at the end of the trial period, make the decision
to either a) continue b) Stop c) change it a little and continue. It is up to you but at least commit to
doing one for the next seven days and let me know how you got on I am always interested in
hearing how you have progressed.
1) Smile
This exercise may seem easy or hard depending on how often you currently smile. How ever hard it
is, please fake it until you make it! Notice how it feels when you break a smile across your face?
For the next seven days just smile. If you are faced with adversity and negative situations instead of
getting upset and/or angry take a deep breath and smile. Notice yourself smiling. Every time you
smile praise yourself and notice how good it makes you feel. The best part of this lesson is every
time you notice that you are not smiling, remembering the points on failure above. Take a deep
breath, say to yourself "come on me why am I not smiling" put a smile on your face and then
congratulate yourself for smiling, make it fun. I often now laugh when I catch myself not smiling!
How would you life be if you smiled almost all the time? How would other people see you?
2) Visualisation
Visualise yourself having achieved the goal that you want knowing that you have achieved this goal
what do you see? What do you hear? What do you feel? Really make your visualisations as real as
you possibly can, only when you really believe the future has happened will your sub conscious
mind start finding ways to make it happen for you. When you have this you will start to be
presented with opportunities however small or large and these will take you towards your end goal.
How did you plot your path to success what steps did you take? Do this exercise for 15-20 minutes
at least twice daily preferably in the mornings and in the evenings. If you are short on time then do
this on the way to or from work or even whilst lying in bed.
3) Give yourself a gift
In the preparation section above you were asked how much you did for yourself and if you thought
that you did not do a lot for yourself then do something about it now, book yourself a dinner or a
date at the cinema, buy those new shoes,トリーバーチ, do whatever it takes to feel like you have indulged in
yourself for a little while and take some time out for you, you are after all the most important
person in your life. Repeat this often, but in the seven days you have just do little things for
yourself, even if it is to praise yourself and tell you that you are amazing and that you can achieve
anything that you set your mind to.
4) Achievement journal
Do you find that you are often feeling you could have done better? You do not feel very much like
you are getting very far? If you are anything but positive about your life experience then for 5
minutes in the morning and 5 minutes in the evening get out a journal and start writing about past
experiences, what did you do as a child, what did you do last month, last week, yesterday. My
preference is to start with the most recent and try to keep it recent, when I run out of ideas I dig
deeper. The aim of the game is to keep writing without too much thinking time, for 5 minutes solid,
the pen should not stop moving really. The more of this you do the easier it becomes. The purpose
of this exercise is to remind you how wonderful you are and then to start your brain looking for
those moments to praise your successes, however small. Remember when you get stuck, it is an
achievement to have brushed your teeth,トリーバーチ, to get dressed, to drive a car etc. 鈥?Oh one last thing,
never ever repeat an achievement. This will allow you to actively seek new achievements
throughout the day and for your brain to look even harder.
5) Do something different
Why not try something different today? Do something different each day that will make you feel
slightly uncomfortable and help you to push yourself closer to your goal a little more. It may be
talking to someone you wouldn't usually, brushing your teeth with your other hand, bungee
jumping! What ever works for you. If you cannot do it within the next seven days then you should
book it within the next seven days, set a clear date and time in your diary and stick to it. If you
need a push at the right time let me know what you are planning to do and when and I'll make sure
you are reminded.
6) Praise every success
Whenever you do something right, however small praise yourself, celebrate it like you would if you
had just won the lottery you will set up your continued success by expecting more success and your
subconscious will go out looking for ways for you to praise the successes. You are amazing so
celebrate this every time you prove that to yourself. Also as a part of this exercise you might notice
people praising you too. Accept their kind gift with a beautiful big smile, and an awe inspiring
"THANKYOU!" In doing this you will make them feel great about the praise they have given you
and they will want to give you even more. Which will also make you feel better. Remember to
praise everyone else's successes too in the same way as you would your own, this will be you gift to
them.
7) Protect your mind
Your mind and subconscious are very sensitive and the messages you feed into them are reflected
by what you get out. Protect your mind by ensuring that only positive and inspiring messages get
through. To help protect you I suggest a radical move that I exercise now on a daily basis. Do not
listen to, read or watch the news. This at first seems impossible, but when you look at it, probably
about 95% of the news is bad news and is repeated regularly. How much time do you lose
assimilating this? How much of it directly affects you? I learnt on my discovery of this, to rely on
the fact that any news that does affect you will reach you by word of mouth when you need it. Most
people will often make small talk about the news anyway and you can find out all you need to know
from them if you want. Let them do the work, say something like I missed the paper this morning
was there anything important in there? There often wasn't!!
It doesn't ever take me too long to find out the really important stuff and I now have about 3 hours
of my day to fill with learning, and positive affirmations that I would otherwise have filled with
negative items that the media deem important to tell us about as it is likely to sell papers.
I hope that you learned some things about yourself and about the way forward for you to have a
better life.
Remember the most important person in your life is you, you only get one life, why wait to enjoy
it?
Please take the time to tell me what you think about this article and if it helped you or not, your
point of view and feedback is really important to me.
Warmest regards
Audie Waterman
Happiness Coach
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Audie Waterman is a hapiness coach, coaching now in various careers and various ways informally throughout life for 17 years. It has been decided that the best way to help people is to take this a step further and qualify as a coach, and is currently studying as a personal coach, an advanced diploma and as an NLP practicioner.